When guys want something, they go for it, and gay courting lasts about as long as it takes the Starship Enterprise to reach warpspeed. Which, at first, we did. It was enjoyably rough, kinda like crossfit. But with every position swap, a Facebook alert sounded from my phone. At first, I tried to pay it no attention, and as we picked up pace, so did the cyber groans of my iPhone 5…until, finally, our rhythmic flesh-on-flesh pounding was in tandem with my data notifications.
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It is a typical Tuesday night on the ninth floor of an NYU dorm. In places like New York City, sex, or the prospect of it, is laughably easy to procure thanks to Grindr, which launched in , when my friends and I were closeted year-olds, going to high school in provincial suburban towns, watching our straight classmates dip their toes into the world of promiscuity as we hunkered down and studied, sexless. I downloaded the app a few weeks into my freshman year in New York City, and it became — as it has for many gay millennial men — my first introduction to sex, a digitized bathhouse. The reality, though, as reality tends to be, is something far more subdued, and it often feels far more sinister: Grindr, though anonymous and astonishingly efficient, has presented us with something of a social and romantic quandary. Casual sex is a fact of life for single people in the city, a place crowded with young, horny men reluctant to settle down — and all the more so when presented with this digital watering hole of sexual conquests.
Grindr Hookup Etiquette
Middle aged homo trying to figure out Grindr. Is it impolite to go on Grindr if you're not looking for an immediate hook up? My preferred form of sexual relationship is the friend-with-benefits situation. I go on Grindr looking to make friends who could, at least potentially, be sex partners, but I usually like to do the friend thing before the sex.
In recent weeks and months, it seems like we have been hearing more and more incidents where something bad has happened to gay men as a result of hooking up online. Not too long ago, I saw a a news item about a Philadelphia tourist who was physically and sexually assaulted at gunpoint and robbed. An elderly Michigan man was murdered by a trio of thugs as a result of a Grindr hookup gone terribly wrong.